What are you worried about? What are you worried about? What are you worried about?

What are you worried about?

Wellbeing

You know what it’s like. One small thing happens, and all of a sudden you are in the depths of doom and gloom and the world is about to end.

It’s all about what could happen. And not at all about what actually happened.

Like your child gets into a scuffle at school and in your story she is going to be a high school drop out and in trouble with the law.

Or you make a mistake at work and the drama in your head sees you being fired, unable to get another job, and you end up on the street.

Or that small argument with your partner plays out with you splitting up, and being single. For the rest of your life.

You know how it goes.

We worry. We are wired to worry. It was really helpful back in the day of having to run away from tigers for fear of being eaten. That was something to worry about. But now, not so much.

And we worry about everything. It is most often not the actual thing that happens to us that is the issue. It is the fretting about everything that could happen, might happen and even the things that have little remote possibility of happening. Yes we worry about those too.

But it doesn’t serve us. Not even in the slightest. People who have had really terrible things happen to them, have said in research studies that worrying about the possibility didn’t in any way prepare them for the actual event like losing a loved one, or getting a serious illness. And that they wished they hadn’t wasted so much energy on all the ‘what if’s’.

So what do we do? It is all fine and well to say just stop it. But we know it’s not that easy.

Sometimes I like to play the story out to the very end. What is the absolute worst thing that could happen. The very worst. Then work back from there.

But most of the time, when I catch myself, this is not the best solution.

The best solution is to stop, breath, and centre yourself in the moment. The present moment. All we have is right here. Right now. Practise gratitude for the good things that are here in this present moment. And hold on to that when your worrying mind starts to go on the roller coaster ride.

Stay present, and keep breathing. It may never ever happen. And even if it does, spending all of your precious moments and energy worrying about it won’t help one little bit.

Mindfulness practice anyone?

 

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