What happens when you stop striving? What happens when you stop striving? What happens when you stop striving?

What happens when you stop striving?


I was with one of my long term coaching clients last week. She is a mover and shaker, runs a massive operations department for an important organisation. And she was having an epiphany.

She was relaying some amazing things that had happened to her in the past month since we had our last session. A brilliant leadership program that was hotly contested landed ‘in her lap’, an overseas development program that she didn’t think she would be selected for came through, and her work was flowing with greater ease than it had in years.

‘And Megan’, she said, ‘I didn’t even do anything, it all just happened!’.

Hmmmm, interesting.

Now this woman is amazing. She works really hard, is uber professional, excpetionally efficient and seriously smart. And she strives. Like most of us. It is one of the things we have been working on over a number of years. How to get the flow happening without feeling like you are pushing it all up hill, all of the time. Letting go of the reins a little and enjoying the ride without the paralysing fear that it will all fall apart the minute you do.

And this is what she had been practising. Doing the work and letting the work be enough. Without the striving. Every minute of every day. Striving to just feel good enough.

This is where the magic happens. She stopped striving, and all of the work turned into flow. A flow of good things that she previously would have pushed and pushed for, well, she just didn’t have to push for them, they came her way anyway.

And she felt she could finally breathe. Breathe knowing that you really can let go a little, and trust the path, trust the work, and trust that the things that are meant to come to you as a result of all you do, will.

So this week, I ask you to think about where you are striving. What are you striving for? What feels like you are pushing it up hill? Where are you holding your breath hoping for an outcome? What would happen if you let go just a little bit? And really, what are you afraid of if you do?

Sit with those questions this week. I would love to hear your comments about this, as it is one of the most common issues I see with my clients, and one of the most liberating things when we can release it even a little.

Give it a shot and see what happens. And let me know how you go.

Have a great week.

Megan x

P.S. I am loving working with my private clients since opening up some new coaching days now that I am on sabbatical. It is so amazing to see the imapct of our work together, even after one session. If you would like to work with me, please drop me an email at [email protected] I’d love to help you reach your goals.

My next group coaching program starts in July and registration is now open. There are 3 group coaching calls on specific areas, cool worksheets and lot’s of interaction. The March session had amazing feedback. Click here for all the details. I would love you to join us.

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